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Growing up, I was always a chubby kid. I was bigger than most of the kids my age and certainly more physical. The result of having two athletic brothers who were 7 and 10 years my elder, yet encouraged me to compete at a high level. I excelled in sports and played all day every day – but I was also a fat kid. I was also, and still am, pasty white. Although I spend my youth in Southern California, I couldn’t get a tan to save my life. I had two skin tones: white and red. Older kids made…

Manifestation is an interesting word. I’ve heard it a lot when the movie The Secret came out. This was because it was trendy and popular. The term seemed to die off a bit and I was fine with that. Once again the word seems to have sprung back to life, but more likely, it’s the books I’m reading and the people I’m hanging out with that is the real cause of me hearing and seeing this word over and over. Or is it something else? As I think about this, I realize that’s all manifestation really is – thinking. It’s…

I watched a documentary about a man who spent time in prison. He didn’t feel the punishment was befitting the crime as he didn’t think there was a crime.   But, when they were interviewing him, he said something that struck me:   “Going to prison was the best thing that could have happened to me.”   My initial reaction was that he must be playing for the camera. I wouldn’t blame him. We all want to look good, if even to ourselves.   Then when the interviewer pushed him further,…

My wife and I often say that we want our son to stop growing up so he will stay the cute little boy he is. Of course, we don’t really want that for him, and we also know that change is inevitable. There have been several books written on change. For many people, when things change, they can elicit a feeling of uncertainty and chaos. Others run towards…

This is a compelling question and a complete paradigm change from most of the stances we take when we feel something needs to be changed or fixed. When we’ve determined something is wrong, such as not having enough money, being too fat, in a bad relationship, etc., we turn our minds into a negative “what’s wrong with me” mode and then resort to trying to fix the problem from that state of mind. What if we approached these situations with…

As hard as I try to pretend that it’s just another day, there is something undeniably special about the New Year. Perhaps it’s the #1 on my calendar, or the first month of a year, or the first day of a quarter… or perhaps, it’s the fact that I’ve been conditioned to think of it as a blank slate. Whatever it is… I like it. Each year I set a theme for the year. It’s something I do for fun, but it also acts like a mantra for me throughout the year.

What are your wins for the week? Do you write them down? I take a siesta each day, but right before I do, I write down my wins for the day so far. I repeat the process at night (mostly). I make sure to get five down each time. Each time I start…

The dreaded 404 error. This is the error you get on your screen when you click on a link and it takes you to a dead end – a page on a website that doesn’t exist. This is frustrating, but at least you get an easy to recognize error message. In business, this 404 error shows, but it doesn’t show up as clearly to the untrained eye and so, most business…

During my morning meditation, a thought came to mind. I’ve always had the most success when I was having fun. This is true as an athlete, where I felt like I was in a state of flow – in the moment. The game seemed easier to me and I would laugh (which would worry people). This is true in my marriage. When I chose to simply be the…

What’s your #1 priority? Really. What is it? Not your, “this is what I wish it were” #1, but the real #1 priority. About six months ago my wife and I hired a coach. An intimacy coach. We hired her not because anything was wrong, but because we both have been coaching people for a long time and…