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This is a game I play with myself and with my clients. This game had played out for me in my personal and business life many times. In fact, my family has been sick for the past week, so between taking care of them, managing my energy, and working, I’ve only had limited time in various areas of my life. So, how does this game go? It’s simple really. You pick…

Coke and Hookers… That’s how his weekend started. He was coming to a retreat for business leaders and had flown half-way around the world to be there. He was not only a successful businessman, but he was also a father, a husband, and a leader in his community. When he arrived in Boston, he met up with a few other men who had traveled from around the world to attend the…

When you coach yourself, you get a different perspective. I’m going through a bit of a business dilemma right now. This has been compounded with the fact that my whole family has been sick for the past few days, which means no sleep for Daddy (or Mommy for that matter). Of course, things look a lot worse when you haven’t slept and start thinking about them at 3 AM lying on the couch listening for signs of a crying toddler.

Birds of a feather flock together So chose your friends wisely. This was on the wall of my 6th-grade classroom and I feel it’s just as important today as it was then. Who do you find yourself spending time with that you should let go of? Where do you go to have conversations that matter? Who do you want more of in your life? What groups do you visit regularly online to provide you stimulus and growth? These are important questions to ask yourself. Looking for support, let me know and I’ll do my best to point you in…

I used to stay up late grinding it out for work… I used to stay up late grinding it out to look good… I used to stay up late to show that I was the best… Now, I stay up late to hold my son when he’s sick. I had my priorities out of whack. I followed the wrong path.

“I get angry and pull away.” “Go talk to Doug,” said one of the other coaches. At this point, I was standing in front of a businessman, in his 30’s, who was filled with guilt and shame. You could see it on his face. He had a hard time telling me what was going on. “You see Doug, I’m so embarrassed saying this because my wife is the most amazing woman in the world. I love her so much… but… when we don’t have sex for several days, I find myself getting angry and pulling away from her. She doesn’t…

Shipping off to war. I’ve never done it, but after talking to friends of mine that have, they’ve told me what I’ve suspected – they get their affairs in order before departing. They don’t know if they’re coming back or not. They take the time to tell each family member that they love them – not casually, but from the heart. They make sure to tie up any loose ends in their life and those that have businesses of their own, they make sure that their staff knows what to do without them. They make sure they’re not the stopping…

What do you stand for? As the saying goes, if you don’t stand for anything, then you’ll fall for everything. It’s 5:30 AM as I write this down… everyone in the house is asleep. I’m not in my home; I’m in someone else’s. For the next several days, I’ll be staying at an estate in the lakes region of New Hampshire where…

“What’s the fastest and easiest way for us to get to our goal of 48k take-home each by January 31st?” Said another way… “If I had a gun to your head and your life depended on us getting to 48k by the end of January, what would we as a company be doing differently?” This was the question I posed to him. I waited for his response… “I don’t like this, Doug.,” he said with a tone of disgust. He then went on to list out the things that would need to happen in order to hit…

I’m afraid of failing… I’m afraid what others will think of me… I’m afraid what my wife will think of me… I’m afraid what my son will think of his father who didn’t do all he set out to do… What kind of example will I be to others if I fail? I’m afraid of failing… Most of us are, but we don’t talk about it because that would be taboo. Our fears can control our thoughts, our actions, and our behaviors – consciously and unconsciously. Yet, if we don’t identify those fears and accept them in order to let…