The easiest way to know what it is that you want is to start by thinking of ten things you never want to experience again.
Going into your past and searching for what you don’t want to experience usually drums up an incredible sense of emotion. These are experiences that caused pain and trauma usually.
The past experiences that you don’t ever want to experience again are easy for most of us to step back into and become present to what it was at that moment that we never wish to experience again.
Now that you’ve got your list. What are the exact opposite experiences to the ones you’ve listed?
Example: During the economic downturn of 2008, I had staff who at the time I would have called good friends, steal from me. Without going into detail, this experience was painful and sent me into an emotional tailspin. I never want to experience that again (nor for you to experience it).
Turn Around: I want to have a team that I work with who I can trust and depend on. It’s for this reason that I hire for integrity first and skills a distant second. I trust my gut, and when my gut tells me something might be off, I will make sure to confront the issue lovingly, but assertively.
Of course, this exercise is a general rule, and someone will send me a message telling me how their situation is the exception. Fine. But as a general rule, you can use this simple exercise in your business, your relationships, your health, or any other area of your life.
The past is to learn from. The future is something you get the opportunity to step into while living in the present.
Create the future you want by learning from your past.
Remember – this only works if you do the exercise. I’d love to see what you come up with if you’re willing to share.